A new month is here, the last of 2021. A time where some cannot help but reflect on their past year and think of what is yet to come. A reminder to be thankful for what has been achieved, what and who we do have in life but also possibly darker times ahead.
What do you love about these winter months? For me it’s warm nights in and seeing loved ones, the celebration of life, playing more games and being childlike, the shiny sparkly colours and twinkling lights, all of my favourite tastes, simple things like fire gazing, candlelit baths, writing songs/journalling with my fairy lights on and a Christmas movie playing in the background.
It’s easy to say the cute and cosy things but the reality for some will be the opposite, triggers bringing out crippling anxiety, a reminder or forced reflection of the heart ache for the loved one no longer here next to them, the ex-lover, friend, family, pet they yearn for, (or at least the feeling they felt when they were there), the deafness from the still and silence of being alone – whether in crowds or in the true depths of solitude’s loneliness, the dark shadows creeping up even after a year of healing shadow work, the body feeling more sluggish and harder to move in the cold, the shorter darker days to feel less alive, reminders of neglect, abuse, abandonment, perhaps the comparison to the joy and happiness in everyone else’s homes but theirs, the ‘selfless’ trauma responses like the “gift of giving” others to console their Inner Child who’s festive periods were much different or even quite similar to how they are now, the absence of love felt and faith fallen, so often taken out in over-indulgence, addiction and self-sabotage.
However you may be feeling, I hope there is some ease and peace gained in reading that it is perfectly acceptable and normal to feel grateful for what you have but also sad for what no longer is, whether it be dreams of the future or sadness of the past, that emotions and feelings are valid but they are never permanent and sitting with them, honouring them as guests and listening to what they may be trying to tell you is a clue to what can be healed and come to light.
A reminder that our time and energy are our most valuable treasures, including most importantly connection to oneself, our one true constant, and that it’s ok to feel that the future is a blank canvas and you have no idea what colours or patterns you want to put on it yet, even if you’re used to manifesting the heavens out of your dreams, that it’s ok to start over again and again and again, not just at the beginning of a month or year but anytime you need and want and that the real gift of existing here is found in the present which can be really fr*ckin’ painfully hard to practise if you’re at rock bottom but there are people who care and can help lift you up from there.
How has your self work and care been recently? What gifts to nourish your mind, body and soul will you be giving yourself as well as others? What simple things could help uplift you through periods of less light? Maybe endless music to move through the motions or actual movement/dance however your body feels to, maybe a night of emotional films to release some tears, or maybe a boxing class to kick the backside out of that rage. My personal annual dread is New Years, where the infinite possibilities of abundance of my vision-board is at some point confronted with grief and sorrow, though every year so different, it’s a time where I give myself extra self-love and compassion and a lot less harshness, judgement and self-sabotage.
I would like to extend out my hand to those who need extra help or care this festive period, if it really is getting too much and unbearable, please send me a message through social media and I will hold space for you and offer my tools and support in exchange for an energy donation.
Go gentle on yourselves. Life may give us moments where we forget about the magic, but together we can remind one another how to create our own.
With Love, Light & Prosperous Wishes to You and Yours
Seher <3
